The Holiday Season: Compassion and Connection

For some people, this time of year is filled with hope, magic and wonder. We see the twinkle in our children’s eyes and we feel the warm flutter of holidays past in our hearts. However, this is not the same story for everyone. This is a year like no other we have experienced before, and many people will not have the opportunity to spend time with their loved ones. This reality can create intense feelings of sadness and loneliness, leading people to feel disconnected.

When we experience sadness, the action urge is to retreat and hide away. This is a typical response but unfortunately, the very thing one needs the most when they are sad it to connect. You see, a good hug, holding hands, or even kind and loving words can release oxytocin. Oxytocin has been labeled as ‘the love hormone’ because researchers have discovered that when people are experiencing moments of connection, oxytocin is being released.

This year, due to COVID-19 restrictions the governments have announced, physical distancing is a very real thing. So instead of being able to hug some of our loved ones, we may have to FaceTime; instead of a big family dinner, we may need to drop off some home-cooked food; and instead of getting together, we may need to dig into our photo archives and send memory reminders of happier past times that might inspire a laugh, a giggle or even just a smile. These little acts of kindness inspire hope, and hope can help shine a light on the darkest of times.

Staying curious and refraining from making assumptions facilitates the expression compassion and empathy. In one way or another, we all want to be heard, so asking how someone is doing, validating their emotional experience and holding space for them (being there for them without judgement) can do wonders.

May you find peace and connection during this holiday season and as we move forward into the New Year.